I don’t do resolutions–they’re as ethereal as lit candles on a birthday cake. Or wishes on a shooting star. But I do like the idea of starting anew, which is why I do spend time reflecting on the last year: what worked, what didn’t, what I could have done better.
What did work was listening to others, mostly my kids. Not giving my children my ‘fix’ helped improve our relationships. As my daughter says, “Mom, sometimes I just need to vent, not get therapy.” Sure, sometimes their words hurt, but not taking their stuff personally was the #2 thing I achieved this year. It’s tough having a Velcro exterior that captures anxieties and fears and hurts, then instantly morphs into armor. The third thing that worked was spending time by myself traipsing around Baltimore neighborhoods and checking out independent coffee shops where I could write. Becoming comfy with myself.
What didn’t work was my sloth vibe. Even my doc expressed concern about my sedentary ways. I’ve ordered a standing desk for work, and I’m sure the ‘it’s a new year and a new you’ gym specials will fill my mailbox tomorrow. And I’ve joined the Instant Pot Nation, so healthy, home-cooked meals are a button-push away. What also didn’t work was worrying about work. Work is work, and only work–it’s not me or my life, just a place I go and do what I need to do to get the money to pay the bills. Actually, I love my job, but this past year I let politics and pettiness rule my enjoyment of the people and process. So, yeah, better balance is required.
Lots I could have done better. But why beat myself up? Live and learn, my son says. I think I’ll listen to his wisdom.
How are you greeting the new year?
2 thoughts on “Resolutions?”
Nice to read this. Glad your children and you are in good places for learning about each other. Life is a fascinating learning experience, isn’t it. Happy New Year, dear friend.
I muddle along rather than make resolutions.
Volunteering on a crisis line has taught me (emphatically) that sometimes people need to vent and that listening is a generous gift.
Glad to hear that you are mostly in a good place. And hope that the politics and pettiness (and petty politics) issues subside.